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  • The cause of all my stress: Dad.

    From the outside most people view me as a pretty successful kid. I'm a straight A student, in all honors and AP classes, ranked top three percent in my high school class (just finished junior year), I'm the president of numerous clubs, close with administration and faculty in my school. I even set up an internship with a congressman this summer, because I aspire to work in government. A lot of people are jealous because they think I'm going to be so successful and I only just turned 17. My life sounds pretty awesome right? That couldn't be further from the truth.

    My dad has caused such heart wrenching stress for me that I swear I can no longer bear it. No I don't live in a drug abused household. No my father is not an alcoholic. My sort of dysfunctional family is not your average family that shows up on this website, so I doubt you will have any way to help me. My dad is the dictator of the house. He is the boss and there is no getting through to him. He never levels with me. He is socially awkward in public. I ask him to change certain things he does, such as COMPLETELY OBVIOUSLY stalking my friends and me either on Facebook or in person, to the point where all of my friends think I'm a freak, and he refuses and tells me I'm being an ungrateful bi*ch. He verbally abuses me. He is so strange in such aspects that he just doesn't understand. He doesn't know how to act around other people and he refuses to change his frustrating ways.

    But that's not even the bad part. The amount of stress my father has put me under with school has driven me to the breaking point. He puts SO much pressure on me academically, I feel like my life is literally coming to an end if I get one B on anything. My teachers are always concerned that I'm such a nervous wreck, and my friends are worried that I haven't socialized in over a year and I've lost twelve pounds because the stress causes me to not eat. I have developed severe acid reflux because of my overbearing stress and my asthma has gotten so bad that I walk around with my oxygen levels so low, I constantly have a headache and I'm always dizzy.
    My dad has recently gone back to school to become a social worker, and the irony of the situation makes me want to scream and run away. He thinks he's a super hero because he drives two hours away to help complete strangers with their problems, yet every time I try to sit down and talk to him as his own daughter, he curses me off. Please, I just want to leave this place. Every time I have a happy moment, the next day is filled with more and more misery from my father. He constantly threatens to divorce my mother if she even mutters a difference in opinion in front of me. And I have an older brother who is 22, he supports me a lot but I don't want to put all of my emotional stress on him. He just had open heart surgery a month ago. Sometimes I feel so trapped by my fathers dysfunctionality I just want to end it all. I've tried to get him to go to counseling with us as a family, but he refuses because he doesn't see that he is doing anything wrong. After all, he's a social worker. Please help, it's too much.

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    It sounds like you are dealing with a lot. Verbal abuse is abuse, and it is not okay. Please reach out to the Department of Child Protection and Permanency at 877-652-2873 for help. It sounds like school is really taking a toll on you physically. It is okay to take a step back and relax. Getting a B on an assignment is okay. Perhaps you can just relax for a little, and sleep or do something that you enjoy. Sometimes when you take the time to clear your head, it allows you to come back feeling refreshed. It is great that you suggested family counseling. Maybe you can start by going with your mom and brother and eventually your dad will change his mind. If not, a counselor may be able to help you all find a healthy way of handling the conflict with your dad. You may even want to reach out to your guidance counselor at school, school nurse, teacher, or doctor for help. Or you can call 2NDFLOOR anytime at 888-222-2228 for more help! We are here 24/7!

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      i have suggestion

      i have dealt with this in the past. my dad gets angry and can be a real jerk and it drives me insane. i have cut once because of it. he would yell cuss threaten my mom for twelve years of marriage. i would sneak into the room they were in to listen. sometimes it would happen infront of me. my dad made my mom stay home while he and i went to his families house. in 2010 my parents divorced. he still is a tool. he still destroys my mom in court because the judge hates her. but she is innocent. my mom was censored and depressed and and still is. i think the same is happening to your mom. if you have a chance to talk to her far away from your dad... ask her questions. recommend a separation. your mom thinks that if she divorces, it is worse for the kid. its not. if youre mom rejects it you should keep trying to ask her. if no divorce then try things like couseling or marriage counseling and bring your dad.

      youre dad is abusing you and youre mom. not physically, but mentally verbally emotionally.

      if you have questions reply and i could try to help you

      please

      i care

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