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I hope the person is responding to has some kind of insight on dating.
I entered the dating scene like so recently. So I'm so naive.
I started talking to a guy from Tinder, since Dec. We've only gone on one date, would text for hours everyday at night, and planning a meet up this Thu. He has always been respectful about my space, and we he does text excessively, it's because I give him the green light.I guess the problem is that I'm not feeling a "chemistry", or for some reason, I suddenly got a very strong gut feeling. He's a veeeery intellectual person. I think I'm beginning to feel drained because he turns everything into something deeply philosophical or scientific. I just don't want to be a stop for someone to run their their ideas and thoughts. I want to feel heard or like someone wants to know me on a deeper level, not just be a sounding board. Yet, most of the conversation has only been through text, so sometimes it loses that listening factor. But he does have a lot of green flags, maybe more so than any guy I've ever come across and overall is "marriage" and "husband" material. He's 27 almost 28. I'm 23 I just want to feel in sync with someone, that "spark", but even butterflies I don't feel sometimes. That's a lie, I do fantasize sometimes about making out with them, which deeply confuses me.
Can I initiate a kiss or some light physical intimacy to test out the attraction? But I don't want that to be misleading. I don't wanna break his heart or keep this going too long, but I also want to give it a chance.
I entered the dating scene like so recently. So I'm so naive.
I started talking to a guy from Tinder, since Dec. We've only gone on one date, would text for hours everyday at night, and planning a meet up this Thu. He has always been respectful about my space, and we he does text excessively, it's because I give him the green light.I guess the problem is that I'm not feeling a "chemistry", or for some reason, I suddenly got a very strong gut feeling. He's a veeeery intellectual person. I think I'm beginning to feel drained because he turns everything into something deeply philosophical or scientific. I just don't want to be a stop for someone to run their their ideas and thoughts. I want to feel heard or like someone wants to know me on a deeper level, not just be a sounding board. Yet, most of the conversation has only been through text, so sometimes it loses that listening factor. But he does have a lot of green flags, maybe more so than any guy I've ever come across and overall is "marriage" and "husband" material. He's 27 almost 28. I'm 23 I just want to feel in sync with someone, that "spark", but even butterflies I don't feel sometimes. That's a lie, I do fantasize sometimes about making out with them, which deeply confuses me.
Can I initiate a kiss or some light physical intimacy to test out the attraction? But I don't want that to be misleading. I don't wanna break his heart or keep this going too long, but I also want to give it a chance.
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