I had a athletic coach and we worked together in middleschool. But after couple of years, we reconnected again. Well I quit whatever sport it was, but she was my mentor in all sense -- she'd give me so much support emotionally and compensated for the lack of support and understand I get from my parents. So in a way, she was so maternal towards me. She became my FAMILY. Anyways, after we haven't touched base in a long time, I told her happy birthday through FB messages, and she was so delighted. She then asked me what's going on in MY OWN emotional world -- she knows all about my mental illness struggles and she is the one who wanted to hear about it????? SO I did answer -- I told her about my struggles I went through and twhat I'm doing to heal, and the realization I had, but then the strength that I acquired.
She leaves me on read....
I don't like that? Like she wanted me to share something vulnerable, and then not respond to it? Or for the convo to not go anywhere else or at least end???
In a sense I find that offensive.
It hurts because I don't have many support systems, and these little interactions I get with meaningful people who know all about me and we've been through so much together, their attention means a lot to me.
In general, why do people do that? What should I say?
I remember even back in middle school, when I try to connect with her, it would take solid 3 weeks to get in touch at times. So I figured it's her style? But because she's my support system (I ONCE ASKED HER IF I CAN LEAN ON HER DURING A DIFFICULT TIME I WAS GOING THROUGH, AND SHE SAID ABSOLUTELY. So what does that say?
And because she's my support system from distance, I just wish she gives me more "heads up" in terms of when I reach out to her and she's busy or something.
She leaves me on read....
I don't like that? Like she wanted me to share something vulnerable, and then not respond to it? Or for the convo to not go anywhere else or at least end???
In a sense I find that offensive.
It hurts because I don't have many support systems, and these little interactions I get with meaningful people who know all about me and we've been through so much together, their attention means a lot to me.
In general, why do people do that? What should I say?
I remember even back in middle school, when I try to connect with her, it would take solid 3 weeks to get in touch at times. So I figured it's her style? But because she's my support system (I ONCE ASKED HER IF I CAN LEAN ON HER DURING A DIFFICULT TIME I WAS GOING THROUGH, AND SHE SAID ABSOLUTELY. So what does that say?
And because she's my support system from distance, I just wish she gives me more "heads up" in terms of when I reach out to her and she's busy or something.
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