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Just a little background, I am a freshman in college.
I had a teacher in Highschool who was like an angel sent from God to help me during a very vulernable time where I was falling apart, and I had no family member to effectively support me, as my family is quite emotionally absent, and there's that language barrier.
He is just overall a very strict teacher, with a boistrous personailty and at first, I genuinly thought he thought I was stupid and I was FRIGHTENED of him as lots of students are. Last year, senior year, I was dealing with mania, depression, dysfunctionality, and as my grades started dropping, he immediatly noticed a change. At first I started talking to him about the grades, then gradually the conversations started shifting more towards on "how are you doing... in life? whats going through your mind?"
At that moment, I broke down, and he was expecting an intimate conversation because I had given him a hard time of ignoring his "stay after class", the meetings he tried holding in the guidance office, you can see all that he was trying to do to help me out. Given he is my psychology teacher, he really understood what was going on owhen I told him, and never in my life did I feel safe to trust anyone .... because I have trust issues.
While I didnt "rely on him" by opening up to him, it was only like 2 deep converstation and the rest are more surficial ones while having to stay after school to complete my work.
But believe me when I say, I dont mean this in a wierd way, it was like twinflame kinda connection, where I saw him like a fatherly figure. No ONE EVER made me feel this way. He'd know what I was feeling sometimes without me saying.... thats powerful. And dont forget when i said, he's really strict, very Type A and many students have told me "he dont care bout no students", but to see someone like him offer me that soft spot, that is something billions of people wouldnt be able to do or at least give me that feeling.
Point of this is just to show you how important he was to me, and still is despite being an alumni. He was the only reason that prevented me from taking my own life, and he knew that because I thanked him, and it was just as meaninful to him as well. What tore me apart is, I wanted to visit, but just before I planned on stopping at my highschool, we recieve the shutdown news. I was so mad, because if I visit next year when school reopen, then theres that bit of connection lost, he wont remember blah blah. But also now since everything is virtual, I question how I can reach out to him?
Also on Facebook, I see my fb friends befriend former teachers, and makes me wonder if its appropraite to send a request?
I dont know, what do you think?
Just a little background, I am a freshman in college.
I had a teacher in Highschool who was like an angel sent from God to help me during a very vulernable time where I was falling apart, and I had no family member to effectively support me, as my family is quite emotionally absent, and there's that language barrier.
He is just overall a very strict teacher, with a boistrous personailty and at first, I genuinly thought he thought I was stupid and I was FRIGHTENED of him as lots of students are. Last year, senior year, I was dealing with mania, depression, dysfunctionality, and as my grades started dropping, he immediatly noticed a change. At first I started talking to him about the grades, then gradually the conversations started shifting more towards on "how are you doing... in life? whats going through your mind?"
At that moment, I broke down, and he was expecting an intimate conversation because I had given him a hard time of ignoring his "stay after class", the meetings he tried holding in the guidance office, you can see all that he was trying to do to help me out. Given he is my psychology teacher, he really understood what was going on owhen I told him, and never in my life did I feel safe to trust anyone .... because I have trust issues.
While I didnt "rely on him" by opening up to him, it was only like 2 deep converstation and the rest are more surficial ones while having to stay after school to complete my work.
But believe me when I say, I dont mean this in a wierd way, it was like twinflame kinda connection, where I saw him like a fatherly figure. No ONE EVER made me feel this way. He'd know what I was feeling sometimes without me saying.... thats powerful. And dont forget when i said, he's really strict, very Type A and many students have told me "he dont care bout no students", but to see someone like him offer me that soft spot, that is something billions of people wouldnt be able to do or at least give me that feeling.
Point of this is just to show you how important he was to me, and still is despite being an alumni. He was the only reason that prevented me from taking my own life, and he knew that because I thanked him, and it was just as meaninful to him as well. What tore me apart is, I wanted to visit, but just before I planned on stopping at my highschool, we recieve the shutdown news. I was so mad, because if I visit next year when school reopen, then theres that bit of connection lost, he wont remember blah blah. But also now since everything is virtual, I question how I can reach out to him?
Also on Facebook, I see my fb friends befriend former teachers, and makes me wonder if its appropraite to send a request?
I dont know, what do you think?
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