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I've felt isolated with the friends that I have, for reasons im not sure of, I have like 3 best friends, but it doesn't seem like enough, so I have been trying to reach out to people I used to hang out with and people in my classes, to try and make more friends and feel less isolated. However, the people that I am referring too, one of them is my roommate, and they talk to me a lot and even offer to help me out in class, and we have good conversations, but whenever I try and invite them out, they always make lame excuses, that I can honestly tell aren't legitamate, and neglect to answer my texts and this has happened with like 5 people that I see in person, who then do this. It's like text one, "sorry im working, or sorry im in class", text two, "sorry im working", and text 3 they dont answer at all, but continue being friendly when I run into them. If they wanted to be friends, they would likely be available some of the time, they honestly aren't in class 24/7.
I almost want to ask them, what the issue is, in a more polite way like say, "I know we haven't talked in a while, so I understand things may feel a bit awkward, but I was hoping we could be friends again, and I was wondering if there was something that I did to offend you or was off putting", its just annoying since this has happened with like 5 ppl, and I get that they have their own group of friends, and busy lives, but I feel like they would just be a bit more open then they are acting, so I feel like im doing something wrong somehow. I mean i guess its random since we havent talked in a while, but I dont really understand why they need to act like this. Its not like there was an abrupt end to our friendship, they are just acquaintances, I used to hang out with every so often and them I got busy, they didnt really reach out to me, so it ended like that. I had taken more of the initiative to begin with.
Would it be wierd and awkward if I asked them like or said like, "i know its been a while, and we havent hung out, but I was hoping we could be friends again, im a bit self concious since you seem busy all the time, if there was something I did that bothered you?, you can be honest with me, " only because this has happened with multiple people and it is frustrating
I almost want to ask them, what the issue is, in a more polite way like say, "I know we haven't talked in a while, so I understand things may feel a bit awkward, but I was hoping we could be friends again, and I was wondering if there was something that I did to offend you or was off putting", its just annoying since this has happened with like 5 ppl, and I get that they have their own group of friends, and busy lives, but I feel like they would just be a bit more open then they are acting, so I feel like im doing something wrong somehow. I mean i guess its random since we havent talked in a while, but I dont really understand why they need to act like this. Its not like there was an abrupt end to our friendship, they are just acquaintances, I used to hang out with every so often and them I got busy, they didnt really reach out to me, so it ended like that. I had taken more of the initiative to begin with.
Would it be wierd and awkward if I asked them like or said like, "i know its been a while, and we havent hung out, but I was hoping we could be friends again, im a bit self concious since you seem busy all the time, if there was something I did that bothered you?, you can be honest with me, " only because this has happened with multiple people and it is frustrating
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