My family depresses me so much.

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My Dad is very emotionally abusive. He used to be physically abusive to my brother (a lot actually) but ever since he had a baby with his new wife things have changed. But only because of his wife, not for me/my brother/my sister. He worships the ground she walks on. She is pretty wicked with her attitude, and is always creating problems from nothing. Like I am just trying to mind my own business and if she feels like it, she brings me up negatively to my dad.... who then rains a storm of negativity on me. It seems like I can't do anything right in his eyes, and he also makes comments on my appearance like that I should color my hair, lose weight, etc. I am not even living with him anymore and he still finds a way to ruin my day all the time. I talk about this with people who say that he takes his problems out on me, and I believe that is the case. I feel stuck though, because I love my dad, even though I cry about him every day, whether it's because of something he said to me that day or something I remember he said to me a while ago. I just want to have a good relationship with him but I feel like this has been going on for so many years that I don't know if we can ever have a normal relationship. My brother and sister have a lot of problems like this with him as well. We all have really low self esteem. I can't even look at myself in the mirror because I hate what I see. I don't know.

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