Abusive ex

[2NDFLOOR]

Thanks for writing in, that sounds like an awful situation to experience and it's good that you got through it. I can't speak to what the police told you since I'm unfamiliar with the laws and how they work, but your best bet would be to go to the domestic abuse or physical abuse helping center in your county. Each county in the state of NJ has their own. They are the people that would know the laws best and be able to tell you what you can and can't do in your situation. The list for the state is: https://www.nj.gov/dcf/women/domestic/
They can also provide you with counseling for what you've been through. You can call or text us anytime at 888-222-2228.

I was in a 2 year relationship with my ex. About a year and a half in I’d say he starting getting physical. There were many signs before I couldn’t see like screaming at me, punching holes in walls, breaking things, etc. He was terribly controlling and super insecure. I had no friends and I couldn’t even be with my family. Over time he started to punch me, give me bruises, kick me in the stomach, put his hands around my neck to the point I couldn’t breathe, and he claimed it was because he “Blacked out and couldn’t control it.” I was too scared to tell anyone so I stayed quiet. I finally decided to go to the police and they told me I waited too long and they were unsure if anything could happen. It really upsets Me and I feel like I have no one to tell/ talk to because no One really seems To care unless it’s about them. I just don’t find it fair he can walk around free while I still have so much anger and pain. Im also worried for the next girls. I just don’t know what to do to heal. I’ve been trying but it’s so hard.