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So my boyfriend and I have been together for just over 3 months and I'm starting to realize that we're having a lot of arguments lately. I don't know what to think of it, but here are some of the things that I have going on that make me question if our relationship is healthy or not:
1. I'm afraid to tell him about my problems because I know he'll either just brush it off or get mad at me because I'm complaining again. I should add that I have a lot of problems and I do tell him about them a lot.
2. He thinks I over-exaggerate when something goes wrong based on how he was a few years ago. He thinks that because he felt a certain way, I must feel the exact same way. He thinks my problems are no where near as bad as I make them seem when really, I don't over exaggerate.
3. Sometimes he makes me feel like I'm stupid. If I haven't heard of a movie or a TV show, he'll say something and it'll make me feel so stupid.
4. He makes me feel like I'm the problem in the relationship. He makes it seem like if I didn't do the things I do, our relationship would be fine. But no, he never takes any of the blame for our fights, he just makes it seem like everything's my fault and my fault only.
5. He cheated on me 5 times with the same girl and didn't plan on telling me for another few months, had I not found out. I forgave him but he never apologized and never did anything about their friendship until just recently.
6. I feel like every time I try to break up with him, he fights for me to stay. I want him to fight for me but sometimes I wonder what will happen if I do leave.
7. The way he talks to me through Facebook when we have fights, it's horrible. He treats me like I don't have feelings.
8. If I fight back, he blames me for our fights.
9. He gets mad when I tell my friends what's going on between us, and when something negative comes up about our relationship, I feel like I have to defend him and really, I'm embarrassed about the way he acts with me and the things he's done to me.
10. I have to question the things I'm about to say to avoid setting him off or getting him upset with me.
11.When something bad happens, he ignores me. He doesn't talk to me about it. He keeps it to himself and ignores me for hours and sometimes days.
12. When we do fight, he yells at me through text messages and Facebook and stuff. He gets so angry when I ask a simple question.
13. I'm actually afraid of him sometimes.
14. He said that sometimes he's had thoughts about killing a few of the people in his life who just cause him problems, and it makes me scared that one day he's going to have those thoughts about me and want to kill me. What if he actually goes through with it? I mean we're neighbors so it could always happen. I'm afraid to tell someone about this because I don't want to be the reason why he's sent back to the psychiatric ward for who knows how long.
15. Ever since he cheated on me, I have issues with people. I don't trust anyone anymore.
I don't exactly know what to do about this and if I can even do anything about it. Can anyone give me some advice? Thank you
1. I'm afraid to tell him about my problems because I know he'll either just brush it off or get mad at me because I'm complaining again. I should add that I have a lot of problems and I do tell him about them a lot.
2. He thinks I over-exaggerate when something goes wrong based on how he was a few years ago. He thinks that because he felt a certain way, I must feel the exact same way. He thinks my problems are no where near as bad as I make them seem when really, I don't over exaggerate.
3. Sometimes he makes me feel like I'm stupid. If I haven't heard of a movie or a TV show, he'll say something and it'll make me feel so stupid.
4. He makes me feel like I'm the problem in the relationship. He makes it seem like if I didn't do the things I do, our relationship would be fine. But no, he never takes any of the blame for our fights, he just makes it seem like everything's my fault and my fault only.
5. He cheated on me 5 times with the same girl and didn't plan on telling me for another few months, had I not found out. I forgave him but he never apologized and never did anything about their friendship until just recently.
6. I feel like every time I try to break up with him, he fights for me to stay. I want him to fight for me but sometimes I wonder what will happen if I do leave.
7. The way he talks to me through Facebook when we have fights, it's horrible. He treats me like I don't have feelings.
8. If I fight back, he blames me for our fights.
9. He gets mad when I tell my friends what's going on between us, and when something negative comes up about our relationship, I feel like I have to defend him and really, I'm embarrassed about the way he acts with me and the things he's done to me.
10. I have to question the things I'm about to say to avoid setting him off or getting him upset with me.
11.When something bad happens, he ignores me. He doesn't talk to me about it. He keeps it to himself and ignores me for hours and sometimes days.
12. When we do fight, he yells at me through text messages and Facebook and stuff. He gets so angry when I ask a simple question.
13. I'm actually afraid of him sometimes.
14. He said that sometimes he's had thoughts about killing a few of the people in his life who just cause him problems, and it makes me scared that one day he's going to have those thoughts about me and want to kill me. What if he actually goes through with it? I mean we're neighbors so it could always happen. I'm afraid to tell someone about this because I don't want to be the reason why he's sent back to the psychiatric ward for who knows how long.
15. Ever since he cheated on me, I have issues with people. I don't trust anyone anymore.
I don't exactly know what to do about this and if I can even do anything about it. Can anyone give me some advice? Thank you
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